The tragedy of visualization

Honey, how do you visualize our first day together after almost a year of separation?
Sweetie, what do you wanna do on your vacation?
And there are many other innocent-sounding questions like that...

Don't answer them. It's a goddamn trap.
What I would like to say to the 2 sample questions above, respectively, is...
- Mmmmm, order home delivery, light a fire, throw the rug down on the floor and fuck like minks!
- Why do I need a plan? It's a vacation, innit???

Instead what I end up mumbling is something like...
- Sweetheart I just wanna hold you close and whisper sweet nothings in your ears and make you laugh
- I'd love to hire a boat and take you out on a ride to a secluded island
And she goes... that choooo chhhwwweeeeet. Tell me in more detail. How do you really see it happening?

Crash! Bang! Whump!!!

Visualizing a moment before it's time is a cardinal sin that one should always be wary of. I have ruined many beautiful moments because I saw them over and over in anticipation and then sulked in the actual moment coz it did not turn out to be what I had thought. So much for the power of visualization. It's a trap we all fall for invariably and often repeatedly. And although the examples above relate to relationships, the rule applies equally well to professional situations.

Live in the moment. It's the greatest because you are alive and ensures good memories even if the future is not so rosy. Good memories are good karma - you owe them to yourself.